Letting go is often misunderstood.
We’re taught that holding on means being strong, loyal, committed. And that walking away means giving up too easily. But what no one talks about enough is this: sometimes holding on hurts more than letting go ever could. Letting go doesn’t mean you didn’t care. It doesn’t mean you failed. It doesn’t mean the connection wasn’t real.
Sometimes, letting go is simply the moment you choose your well-being over constant emotional exhaustion.
Why letting go feels so painful
Letting go hurts because it usually involves something that once felt safe. A relationship, a routine, a version of yourself, or even a hope you held onto for a long time.
Pain doesn’t come from the act of leaving — it comes from the memories, the expectations, and the emotional investment. You’re not just letting go of a person or situation. You’re letting go of who you were when you believed things would turn out differently.
And that grief is valid.
You’re allowed to mourn what could have been, even when you know walking away is the healthier choice.
Holding on can slowly drain you
There’s a quiet kind of suffering that comes from staying where you’re not emotionally safe.
It shows up as overthinking every conversation.
As constantly adjusting yourself to avoid conflict.
As feeling heavy after interactions that are supposed to feel comforting.
When something costs you your peace, your self-worth, or your emotional clarity, it begins to take more than it gives. Over time, this can affect how you see yourself, how you trust, and how you show up in other areas of life.
Letting go isn’t dramatic.
Sometimes, it’s just choosing not to abandon yourself anymore.
Letting go doesn’t erase what mattered
One of the biggest fears around letting go is the feeling that it will erase the meaning of what you shared.
It won’t.
The love, effort, growth, and lessons were real. Letting go doesn’t cancel them out. It simply acknowledges that something meaningful can still come to an end — and that endings don’t always mean failure.
Some connections are meant to teach, not stay forever.
And that’s okay.
When letting go becomes an act of self-respect
There comes a point where staying starts to feel like self-betrayal.
You explain yourself again and again.
You lower your Standards.
You wait for change that never arrives.
Letting go at that moment isn’t weakness — it’s self-respect. It’s saying, “I deserve emotional safety, honesty, and peace.”
Choosing yourself is not selfish. It’s necessary.
Healing doesn’t have a timeline
If you’re struggling to let go, be gentle with yourself.
Healing isn’t a straight line. Some days you’ll feel strong and clear. Other days, you’ll miss what you know you shouldn’t return to. Both can exist at the same time.
You don’t have to rush closure.
You don’t have to feel okay immediately.
What matters is that you’re moving toward honesty — with yourself.
You don’t have to process it alone
Letting go often leaves behind questions, emotions, and moments that are hard to carry by yourself. And sometimes, all you really need is a space where you can talk without being judged or rushed into “moving on.”
At Sezo , we believe healing starts with being heard. We exist to offer a safe, supportive space where you can explore your feelings, make sense of your emotions, and take steps toward emotional clarity — at your own pace.
You don’t need to have everything figured out.
You just need a place where you can begin.
A gentle reminder
Letting go isn’t about forgetting.
It’s about freeing yourself from what no longer supports who you’re becoming.
And if you’re in that in-between space — unsure, hurting, but trying — know this:
You’re not weak for letting go.
You’re healing.
By Tanu @ Sezo
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